People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty;
to provide you with guidance and support;
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
I was asked by Rochelle Stone of Barefoot Basics if I would be interested in being interviewed for her 15 Part Interview Series. which can be found HERE
If you are having trouble accessing that then I have reposted it here.
Aurora T – The Path Beyond
I am an intuitive healer, medium, and metaphysical teacher. Spiritual Events Co-ordinator and Mum.
I live and work on the beautiful Sunshine Coast, Queensland, but my services take me all around the world and I use the internet to assist with this.
4. What book changed your life?
I don’t think any one book has individually changed my life, but my dad being an avid spiritual adventurer passed on many books – the one that impacted me the most is entitled “Secrets about Life Every Woman Should Know…Ten Principles For Spiritual and Emotional Fulfilment”, by Barbara De Angelis. It is a very enlightening book which resonated well with me and I got a lot from it.
5. Favourite travel destination?
The Greek Isles because I love the energetic flow of the colours from the buildings blending with the glorious colours of the ocean and the food and wine is amazing, along with the hospitality of the local people.
6. Tell us a bit about you and your background
I’m a mother of two teenage daughters who was told that due to my Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS) I would never have children and who coped bringing them up as a single mother with Fibromyalgia (FMS) and Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS), helping me to begin my Spiritual journey around 15 years ago in an effort to heal my body and connect with my inner spirit. I now work on bringing this awareness to others, drawing on my own experiences, understanding the pain my clients are in and also being aware of their own personal limitations, which is extremely important when working with people with chronic pain.
7. What inspired you to start your own business?
I have always been a free thinker and have never really conformed to others’ belief systems, so it made sense to do it on my own. I needed to be able to be free to express my spirituality and the healing techniques that I discovered in my own way and to the people that I felt needed my help.
8. What difference has being in business for yourself made in your life?
Owning and running my own business is very rewarding on many levels, it has given me the freedom to reach people I would never have met here in Australia and around the world, and help them to heal themselves. It has been rewarding in the way I can work it around my illness and stop when I need to. Being a single mother it also helped me to raise my daughters in a way I wouldn’t have been able to. It also gives me the freedom of expression and creativity to develop on my own web page and other media resources, which I love.
9. What have been your biggest turning points in life and how did you manage these moments so that they shaped you rather than break you?
My biggest turning point was leaving my marriage with two young children and starting a new beginning, my path to healing – it was very hard and at times it did feel as though it would break me but it only made me stronger, I was extremely unwell from the stress and could have gone under, but I chose to be strong for myself and my girls and those who needed my help, this strength is what I like to impart onto my client and to give them the knowledge that everything they need to heal them is inside themselves. It was a long and enlightening journey.
The second biggest turning point was moving forward after the loss of my father to cancer who was, is and continues to be my spiritual inspiration and guide, inspiring me to develop my new business The Path Beyond.
10. What is your greatest piece of advice that you would give others in business?
Be yourself! You can’t carry off anything else for too long.
11. What have you found to be the most effective way to promote your business?
In my own personal experience, I have found that word of mouth from others who have interacted with you and dealt with you is the best way to gain new clients. Apart from that, I find the internet helps me to connect with people in different parts of the world, so I use it to its full advantage.
12. What has been your greatest success to date in life and business?
Achieving two successful pregnancies with PCOS. Meeting the man I am about to marry who has also been by my side and supported me in the building of my new project The Path Beyond.
13. What one piece of advice would you share with your younger self?
Listen to that inner voice it will never lead you astray and Always look after number one!
14. You have created the opportunity to be the catalyst of positive change in the life of others, what change has this inspired within you as a person?
I have always been an extremely empathic person and have never judged anyone for the choices they have made and I hope my awareness can help others to think before judging.
15. Lastly, what’s next?
I am in the process of building a new web page to be able to enhance the ability to bring my services to people all around the world, I am currently working on new formats to be able to bring my teaching online in an interactive way, as well as my readings and healings. This is very exciting and I love the creative flair I am discovering inside me.
Thank you to Rochelle for allowing me to take part in her very successful series.
Thank you to everyone for your wonderful support and feedback for Part 1. which can be found HERE
It is nice to know that I can reach out to others out there who are also dealing with this syndrome
I will continue where I left off, trying to conceive….
By this time I was frustrated at not being heard, I was ready to give up work and was now trying to fall pregnant. I was told by the doctors that I would never be able to have children because I was not ovulating and they didn’t know why, but being stubborn as I am I wasn’t going to take that for an answer, so I told him I would like to try and was put on all sorts of hormone replacements and hormone patches to try and induce ovulation, then I would haemorrhage and then go off them and have no period. I was still having numerous D&C’s to remove polyps and then they put me on Clomid to try and bring on ovulation and I had to drive an hour every morning to have blood tests to check and monitor my hormone levels – I was living in the country and I didn’t have this facility close by.
The Clomid made me so ill, I was having hot flushes, dizziness, vomiting and generally feeling very unwell. But hey, I was ovulating and producing 6-7 eggs a cycle.
The exhaustion coupled with the still undiagnosed fibromyalgia was only compounding the problem but I continued to do it for quite a few months. Then one day they called me into the office and told me that this was not going to work for me and that I needed to stop and they were refusing me any further treatment, I was not happy. So I went to the head of the hospital and said they are denying me the right to continue to try and fall pregnant, to which he replied ..”we don’t have the resources to continue with someone who is a lost cause…”. I was shocked by this and was still not going to take NO for an answer. I left in tears, went home and pondered on it quite deeply and thought – I am going to have to do this on my own – so I contacted the head of the hospital again and told him he could not deny me blood tests and I wanted the tests to monitor my hormone levels, that I didn’t require any other treatment or any doctors to follow me up, all I want is the blood tests to which he agreed.
So now what do I do? I was basically told I was infertile, no one wanted to help me, no one had a diagnosis as to why I wasn’t able to conceive..now what?
That was when I decided I needed to go within and truly connect with my inner self and work out why was this happening, what was the cause of why I wasn’t getting pregnant. Was it fear? Was it hormonal? Was it my body?, So was it physical, emotional or spiritual?
I wanted to have a baby, so I knew it wasn’t emotional, I knew that spiritually it was time for me to have a child so I knew it wasn’t spiritual so then I realised it was a physical thing. I had gained a fair amount of weight by this time, with the stress and the pain and the rampant hormonal changes and this was what they were blaming it all on – weight gain – not why I would be gaining weight, but purely that overweight=inability to conceive! Fobbing me off as just another overweight patient who couldn’t fall pregnant and it was heartbreaking.
I wasn’t about to go on a strict diet and lose a few pounds so they could then put me back onto the cycle of hormone replacement and not actually work out what the underlying problem was, I just wasn’t going to do it.
I then went on a very long and costly journey of natural therapists and herbalists, Chinese medicine and iridologists, all trying to help but never quite getting it right. Everyone was always focusing on losing weight NOT why I was gaining weight in the first place…a hormonal imbalance! Why wasn’t anyone listening? I had read a bit about PCOS by this time and had almost self diagnosed myself but no one would listen enough to point me to a specialist to get a proper diagnosis.
So I went to the local library and read every book I could on trying to conceive naturally and I believe that when you look at these things you need to look at what resonates with you and take that information and leave the rest aside. So I chose some aromatherapy books, some herbal books, some books on conception and on hormonal issues. As I am a bit of a “flicker”, I would flick through and see what I made a connection with and take that on board and move on to a new book, I read and read book after book and I decided that what I needed to do was what was right for me.
I needed to sort out my hormone problem myself and I wasn’t about to go on a diet, I wasn’t about to go on anything too strict, but I totally changed everything I was doing. I gave up work so I wasn’t stressed any more, I eliminated all processed food out of my diet – I didn’t go crazy, I just made everything from scratch and went as organic and I could and that was mainly so I could detox my body. I took some supplements which I don’t think really helped but didn’t hurt either, I did drink raspberry leaf tea and I think that helped to prepare my uterus lining as I wasn’t ovulating and when I was I was haemorrhaging so I needed to calm it down and I felt the raspberry leave tea helped that. The other thing I did was get rose geranium and chamomile oils and rubbed them on my stomach every day, it had a very calming effect. I was feeling very calm and was now losing weight, I started to meditate and exercised slowly as I still had undiagnosed fibromyalgia, so I had to learn what worked for me and what didn’t.
After a little while I ovulated! I knew when I had ovulated as I would get such intense pain – I think with PCOS you do get more pain as the egg follicle is a lot more dense and has quite a hard membrane to come out of so it is quite painful, so I had to continue on this path and now I was taking my temperature every morning waiting for it to spike and checking out my cervical mucus and this was all the knowledge from reading the books I had found, I was still going to have my blood monitored but not as often and I had to continue on this healthy path.
The first time that I decided to try it all out when my temperature had spiked, I was pregnant!
I went to the doctors to confirm and sure enough the so called impossible had happened, I was pregnant! I went to the hospital knowing full well I was pregnant but needing the blood test anyway and they confirmed. A few weeks later I got a congratulations letter from the head of the IVF department asking me if I would like to come and talk to other overweight women and how losing weight helped me to fall pregnant, when I replied that it was NOT losing weight but how I did it that mattered, I never heard back.
I went on to have a healthy pregnancy and a healthy baby girl.
I continued to live a healthy life style and conceived my second daughter 18 months later, again, unaided by drugs and unhelpful doctors.
But I still had undiagnosed PCOS which would flare up again putting me in and out of hospital for the next few years and lead to what could have been a deadly diagnosis…
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” Marianne Williamson
I love this saying and I was quite surprised that it was written for Nelson Mandela by Marianne Williamson, It speaks volumes about how we have so much power inside us to be what ever we want to be but that we scare ourselves let the fear stop us. And if we just believe we can be what ever we want to be, then we can and will. And have every right to be!
**Please note I am very graphic with my details in this blog**
When I was young about 15 I suffered with heavy periods and mind numbing cramps when I had my period, so, as they do, I was put on the pill, that lasted all of about a month, I felt so ill I went off it and forgot about it, learning to deal with the pain instead, using hot packs and a Panadol.
As I got older, around 17 -19 I had horrible pains, which I would later learn through my own investigations was Mittelschmerz, lower abdominal pain that occurs in women at or around the time of an egg is released from the ovaries (ovulation). However I was told it was stress and to just relax and when that didn’t help and I actually passed out from the pain one day, I has in hospital having my appendix out! That was the “diagnosis”
I continued to have pain and as I also had undiagnosed Fibromyalgia, I wasn’t sure half the time where the pain was coming from, I simply hurt all over and now I was developing new symptoms, hemorrhaging, massive clots and just feeling sick all the time, doctor after doctor would see me and send me away with new medications, which never worked and only made things worse, I was diagnosed with the same banner they put people in when they fit into the “too hard basket” depression! I had never had a depressed day in my life so I refused to believe it and also refused to take the anti-depressants they were trying to get me to take.
I went on about my life, got married and worked, usually with a lot of pain, but I just thought I was lazy and so I pushed through, I started to gain weight around 19, being told now that THIS was what the problem was, I needed to lose weight and all my problems would go away, I hasten to add I wasn’t even overweight, merely well-developed and curvaceous, however the weight did continue to pile on and then all of a sudden I missed several periods, I would go over a year with no period at all, “lose weight, you’ll be right” was all I was told, so I did, I lost weight and now my periods returned with a vengeance, back to the hemorrhaging, massive clots and just feeling sick all the time, now I was passing hard polyps and in and out of hospital having Dilation (or dilatation) and curettage (D&C) they would find large polyps and remove them then I would go home and nothing would change.
One day after D&C I was recovering in the hospital when I felt this horrible pain in my stomach, as I had put up with so much pain for so many years I just laid there, when the nurse came in I asked her for some pain relief, “you don’t look like someone in pain” she said, I rolled around in pain for a while then felt so sick I was on my way to the bathroom when I felt one of those horrible gushes and onto the floor was blood and a large polyp, when I pressed the button and the nurse came in she looked at me, looked at the floor and said “oh my you must have been in a lot of pain” duh!!
The doctor told me there wasn’t much to report and to go home, I did, and I continued on the cycle of heavy periods and no periods. Not game enough to continue seeing a doctor or telling anyone how bad I felt, I simply continued on.
After many years of this roller coaster of pain, hemorrhaging, anaemia, fatigue and sheer frustration, I wanted to get pregnant, but by now I was not even having a period, at all again!!. I was not coping at all well, especially when the doctors told me I would never be able to conceive due to the lack of ovulation.
“Just because you cant see the wind, doesn’t mean it does not exist”
I have been asked what the meaning is behind this quote and here is the answer..
I felt it covered everything I do and I believe in, Mind, Body and Soul.
Mind: I believe that what we think we attract, so even though we can’t see the energetic level these thoughts vibrate on, sooner or later you will know it, as you will attract those things into your life.
Body: As I suffer from illness’ that can’t be seen as such, like a broken leg can be seen when it is plastered, it doesn’t mean that it isn’t real. I have learnt to never judge people unless I know the facts and this has come about from being judged myself when I have needed to wear sunglasses in a bright shopping center for example as I have had a raging migraine and no one to go to the shops for me, and countless times people have said to me “you don’t look sick”
Soul: I can get information from the other side, and I feel things about people, why? I don’t know, I see it as a gift and I use it wisely, however I can’t see it, but it does exist.
And that is where the quote comes from, I use it, I believe in it and I love it!
A year ago today I lost the hero in my life, the man who not only gave me life but taught me all about it and made me the woman I am today. My dad was diagnosed with Cancer and fought a tough battle, it was the hardest thing I have ever had to do, watch my dad pass away.
I remember sitting next to him in the hospital and getting an overwhelming sense of panic and I told my sisters I needed to go, I knew he had left and was on a new Journey, but it didn’t make it any easier, his body let go in the early hours of the next morning.
It did at times make me question my own spiritual beliefs as I had now lost the one person who I could always go to for anything and would always be there with the advice I needed to hear, whether I liked it or not, the person who helped me on my own spiritual journey, my hero, my dad, but I had to draw on my beliefs to help me get through this.
When I arrived home a big beautiful black butterfly with white and blue spots on him flew up to me and landed on the leaves of the tree in front of me, he followed me as I walked slowly around always stopping next to me, I knew it was from my dad, that butterfly was around for 3 days, every time I went outside it was there, it was very reassuring. I have a love of butterflies and I knew this was a clear and strong message from my dad that he was around me.
As the year went on and I was in my grieving process I would meditate and communicate with my dad, I could feel his presence very strongly, I would feel him close by and also know when he was off visiting and looking after other members of the family, his “girls” – Mum, my sisters and all of our daughters, none of us had boys and dad proudly looked after his “girls”, the love he has for us was as deep as it possibly could be while he was with us on the earth plane and stronger than ever now.
One day I was with my partner and I saw a flash of white light, this was nothing new to me as I usually see it when a spirit is around, but this time the flash was blinding, my partner said “what was that!?” He had seen it as well “it’s my dad” I told him and he left me alone to communicate with him, it was at this time my dad told me that anytime I needed him he was there, and to always look after number one, which was his motto, I talked with him for ages then he wanted to go be with mum, I knew then I could communicate with him when ever I needed to and this gave me a lot of comfort.
There were times when I would doubt my connection with my dad, thinking maybe it was all in my head, my need to be able to have him that close again, this would make me very sad, I had no idea why I would doubt it as I never got it wrong before, not with anyone I have helped connect with, so why now?
I was away with my partner for a few days and as I lay on the bed watching the surf gently rolling in I got the feeling that my dad needed to talk to me again, so I made the connection and I was amazed and comforted by what came through….
I burst into the most uncontrollable tears as I felt his energy around me, he was happy that my partner and I had gotten engaged, he acknowledged all the things my girls had achieved and then he was very quiet, he asked me what it was I needed to know right at this moment, I gathered my composure and relaxed and expressed to him that I was confused, I needed to know, be reassured that he was OK, where was he? how did he get around? did he feel pain when he left? all the things we want to know but have no idea. His response was amazing, he told me that I firstly needed to let go of “ego” meaning that I needed to trust with my spirit not my mind and let any preconceived ideas of what I thought go, so I breathed deeper and as I felt myself relax more and go deeper, he asked me if I could feel the weightlessness, I could, he told me I had now let go of my ego and could ask him what ever I needed to.
I asked him all the things I needed to and I felt at an overwhelming peace flowing through me.
I still see the black butterfly often, usually when I need confirmation I am doing the right thing or on the right path and I am sure I always will.
My father was an amazing man who was always there to help me and he is an amazing soul who is still always there right beside me
I decided to join twitter about a month ago, it wasn’t long before I had over 200 followers, sure you get your share of spammers and freaks who just want you to click on their affiliate links, but after I tweeked and twittered I learnt how to weed them out and now I have a lovely range of people who, like me are on there to help others and of course promote their web sites and to share their feelings, pain and things they have found useful.
It has also been very interesting to read the symptoms of other people with FMS/CFS and other automimmune diseases, there is also a wide range of people who are proactive in helping to reduce their symptoms and others who find comfort in sharing how they feel, knowing they are being heard and understood.
It has given me a lot to think about and to write about in the future, so to my fellow tweeters, I thank you for being my friends.
If you would like to follow me my twitter name is thepathbeyond